Chapter 5
- I’ve learned that frustration with my life leads me to food as a reward.
- I’ve also learned that my frustration is based on a false sense of powerlessness, and that I
- have to recover my agency over my own life to master food.
- I’ll have to make whatever changes are necessary to improve my relationships.
- I’ll have to be the one who makes sure my legitimate needs get met, and my immature needs are given up.
- I’ll have to take responsibility for my unfulfilled potential.
- I’ll have to take charge of my stress, and improve the skills that make that possible.
- I must remember that I have two methods to recover my power over my own life:
1. I can proactively deal with my life challenges and make my life work in the areas that were covered.
2. I can avoid defeatism, adding to my false powerlessness, by not using obstacles and difficulties as justification to become a victim of my life, rather than the one in charge.
Chapter 6
- I’ll have to face my anxiety instead of eating to give myself the illusion of being safe or independent.
- I’ll have to do the grown-up work in the real world that could actually get me real safety and real independence.
- I’ll have to stop reinforcing my self-doubts by avoiding something important, the grown-up work.
- I’ll have to realize that my self-doubts make me more dependent, anxious, and sensitive to failing and embarrassment, and make me look for a hiding place.
- I’ll have to see how I eat more to feel safe, but it doesn’t make me safe, it just helps me avoid things and keeps me from recognizing the life decisions I’ve made that should be reviewed.
- I’ll see that there are better ways to deal with the challenges I’m hiding from other than using fat as a cover-up and excuse.
- I know that I have two methods to dismantle the false conclusion that I’m incapable of providing my own safety in life:
1. I can use these insights to stop hiding so I can discover for myself that I’m not powerless.
2. I can stop misinterpreting the dangers in my daily life in order to stop reinforcing my conclusion about powerlessness.